Sunday, June 26, 2011

"When wives become mothers and husbands become fathers"

He was kept alive on a ventilator for respiratory failure for years.He was also suffering from dementia with no voluntary function.I met him and felt heart broken for his wife,who was visiting him,rain or shine,every day.She was changing his clothes,talking to him and talking to us on his behalf.I saw that she was keeping cartoon channels on TV for him.One day I asked her about him,as I knew him then only as a name with a medical history.I had no knowledge about him as a person,I wanted to know his voice,his opinion,his wants,his passions.

How was he when he was him,I asked.
He was a loving person.I love him,she replied and then start flipping TV to a cartoon channel.

All her routines;washing,cleaning,nurturing look like of a mother,protecting her precious bundle of joy.I could see a wife in love,I saw her hoping against a situation with no hope.

As I watched her caring for her husband,as months turning into years,I wondered how chronic diseases take toll on loved ones.I saw an interesting reality as I noticed when wives become mothers and husbands become fathers.

6 comments:

Mishi said...

there is nothing unusual about it..when you are truly in love with some one..you can stand by him all your life..The relationship between husband and wife is perhaps the most beautiful relationship on earth...it has so many aspects other then the main string...they are friends, partners, lovers, and each other's biggest support in life...this relationship is a blessing if only based on sincerity! makes your life hell otherwise...the same people turn into enemies for each other..have a happy marriage every one;p

Kiran Ashraf said...

what can i say...both of them love each other. This kinda conviction is v v hard to find in young couples who...as they say..are in love but maybe for the time being..not forever. God bless both of them.

Thinking said...

hmm....well the same thing I have just wrote in my blog...

True Love...requires hard work and patience....the whole way of life.

IRFANUDDIN said...

i agree with Mishi here word by word.....

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Sadaf Hafeez said...

I have seen that happen ... as my dear mother tended to my late father ...I agree word to word.